Fixed #20583 -- ORM always uses setup_joins() for join generation

There were a couple of places which used Query.join() directly. By
using setup_joins() in these places the code is more DRY, and in
addition there is no need to directly call field.get_joining_columns()
unless the field is the given join_field from get_path_info(). This
makes it easier to make sure a ForeignObject subclass generates joins
correctly in all cases.