package: add STAMP_DIR and use for host builds

Move stamp (dependency) files outside the (version specific) source
directories, so other packages can hardcode dependencies on them instead
of having to use <PACKAGE>_VERSION variables.

This is important as the variables in the make rules are evaluated when
the rules is seen, which might be before the dependent makefile is parsed
(and hence <PACKAGE>_VERSION variable is known, screwing up stuff.

The downside of this is that the package isn't automatically rebuilt
when the version changes (E.G. by a svn update) and you now also have to
remove the stamp files next to $(BUILD_DIR)/<PACKAGE>-* to force a rebuild.